Death & Dying from a Medium's Point of View

by Mary Beth Wrenn

As a psychic medium for many years, I have provided a service to people who desire to reconnect with their loved ones on the other side. The core of every message that I receive from the Other Side is about love and re-connecting to ourselves & each other. Your loved ones are not concerned with petty differences or obligations that are based in fear, but rather that you love yourself and others unconditionally.

We experience "death" every day of our lives. Not just death of the body, but death of a thought, a fear, or our egos. Death represents the greatest change in our lives. It's the change that is most feared. Death is just a change. When our bodies die, we just lose the vehicles in which our souls were encased. We never lose ourselves. We just transition into a higher form of love.

This is the same love that surrounds us here in the now! It's the ego (fear) that isolates from the all-encompassing love. Our fears limit and block us from receiving the love that we so crave. When we die, it's the ultimate act of letting go and surrendering to the change. When we let go . we live. We continue to exist through our own and our loved ones' hearts, minds and souls.

Those on the other side are very much alive! They exist in love and communicate to us through this universal gift of love. They are in our hearts. They exist all around us and within us. It is our duty while we are here in these bodies to remain alive and not dead or disconnected from who we truly are.

As a psychic medium, I have seen more "walking dead" people here on earth than on the other side, where three are more who understand what to truly live means. We are so disconnected from our true essence that we forgot why we came here in the first place. They want to see us heal and surround ourselves in the same love that they exist within as well. Death is not permanent. You can experience death while you are still alive by killing off your life force. Have you ever felt not fully alive, like something is not connected? Have you ever thought that perhaps you could be "stuck" in grief, anger, sadness, or denial?

Remember, grieving is a human condition. It is the intense feelings of disappointments of unmet expectations and disconnection from the very person who represented LOVE to us. Grief is the pain we feel when we believe that we are disconnected from unconditional love.

Often I get messages that make no sense to me. They are intended as "proof of existence" from the other side, to dispel the fear/control/disbelief that dominate this reality so often.

The one thing that aggravates me the most is when people come to me with certain expectations, or they are blocked with anger. Expectations are an illusion that we create here in this reality. Often when this happens, their other loved ones whom they expected to communicate with cannot make contact. The living person's fear and anger are like a lead balloon tied to the foot of the spirit with whom they want to communicate. The expectations are so high that the intended spirit cannot get the healing message to come through. When this happens, other family members whom have passed make their presence known to show the client that they do not mean to play games, and that they only want to aid in healing.

It's natural to experience feelings of loss. It is not natural to be stuck in any one of the feelings associated with grief. If someone is stuck in the level of anger, then receiving a message from the other side is very difficult. Sometimes, people are expecting to hear only what they want to hear and nothing else. Messages do not come through that way. We cannot command the messages to come through only the way we want them. That is control and control is . an illusion!

Hearing a message from the other side can be a very healing experience for those who are still here. It's a re-affirming message that our souls and our selves continue on. We are always surrounded in LOVE at all times, here and there.

We can achieve that state of being in and surrounded by love while we are here. Take the time and talk to a person who knows that their time has come, and they will tell you what matters most is LOVE. You can take the time to really get to know yourself. It is our responsibility to ourselves to really know, accept and love who we are! It's time to learn about the beautiful soul encased by the body.

Love reminds us that we are not alone! Death is a part of life and it's a part of love. The soul's energy vibration changes and increases as we depart from this life. It's not to be feared, but to be accepted as a part of life. It's a transition into a higher state of the (unconditional) love consciousness, and your loved ones want you to know that!

We never lose ourselves. We just forget!

Mary Beth Wrenn is a Psychic Medium located in Charlotte, NC. She offers private reading sessions and galleries at various locations. To learn more about her, visit www.marybethwrenn.com or call 704-566-8300. She is also the editor of Community Spirit Magazine of Charlotte, NC.