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Compiled by Martin Brossman
Iron John: A Book about Men by
Robert Bly ***
"Here, using the Grimm Fairy tale "Iron John"
as a vehicle, Bly explores the myths and cultural underpinnings
of a distinctly vigorous male mode of feeling, a combination
of fierceness and tenderness long since sacrificed to the
demands of the industrial revolution." review from Amazon.com,
published 1990. . New York, New York Addison-Wesley Publishing
Company, Inc.
Women can't hear what men don't
say Destroying Myths, Creating Love by Warren Farrell, PhD
***
"The best-selling author of Why Men Are the Way They
Are and The Myth of Male Power now shows couples how to break
through the unseen barriers to male communication constructed
by society, families, and our culture." review from Amazon.com,
published Oct. 1999.
The Rag and Bone Shop of the Heart
Poems for Men edited by James Hillman, Michael Meade, Robert
Bly ***
Robert Bly, James Hillman, and Michael Meade challenge the
assumptions of our poetry-deprived society in this powerful
collection of more than 400 deeply moving poems from renowned
artists including Robert Frost, Emily Dickinson, Langston
Hughes, Theodore Roethke, Rainer Maria Rilke, Marianne Moore,
Thomas Wolfe, Czeslaw Milosz, and Henry David Thoreau. review
from Amazon.com.
King, Warrior, Magician, Lover:
Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Masculine by Robert
L. Moore, Douglas Gillette (Contributor) ***
Arguing that mature masculinity is not abusive or domineering,
but generative, creative, and empowering of the self and others,
Moore and Gillette provide a Jungian introduction to the psychological
foundations of a mature, authentic, and revitalized masculinity.
A Fine Young Man: What Parents,
Mentors, and Educators Can Do to Shape Adolescent Boys in
Exceptional Men by Michael Gurian ***
Building on the success of his guide to raising healthy young
boys (The Wonder of Boys, Michael Gurian has written the next
chapter--a book focusing on the much-maligned adolescent male.
Gurian asserts, "We do not understand adolescent-male
development, and therefore are unable to give our adolescent
males the kind of love they need to become fully responsible,
loving, and wise men." Adolescent boys may appear to
be self-sufficient, but Gurian asserts that they actually
need their parents and elders desperately. The author carefully
illustrates what we--as parents, mentors, and educators--need
to know about male adolescents, and what we can do to aid
them on their journey to adulthood.
The Way of the Superior Man A Spiritual
Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual
Desire by David Deida ***
The Way Of The Superior Man takes the reader on a powerful
journey into the heart of the contemporary masculine experience.
David Deida explores the most challenging and important issues
in men's lives. Covering everything from work and career,
to dealing with sex, women, and love, to finding purpose in
an increasingly superficial and mechanical world, The Way
Of The Superior Man reveals how a man can live a life of fulfillment
without compromise by relaxing into the truth of his very
being, discovering his deepest vision, and giving his gifts
without holding anything back.
Why Men Are the Way They Are by
Warren Farrell, PhD ***
Dr. Farrell, a former board member of NOW, tries to build
a bridge of understanding between men and women. Instead of
presenting an abridged version of his book, Farrell participates
in a planned, animated dialogue with a woman. This format
provides easy access to Farrell's key points. More significantly,
it serves as a model for male/female conversation. In conversation,
according to Farrell, males are on female turf. "The
person whose turf it is has to take primary responsibility
for creating a safe environment."
Fire in the Belly: On Being a Man
by Sam Keen ***
Written for both men and women, this groundbreaking book takes
the reader on a journey to discover new routes to authentic
manhood and create alternatives to definitions of masculinity
that no longer work in today's world. Reissue edition (April
1992) Bantam Doubleday Dell Pub; ISBN 0553351370
Flying Boy: Healing the Wounded
Man by John Lee
Lee discusses his journey to find his true masculinity. Recommended
for all men and women who grew up in dysfunctional families
and are now ready for fresh insights into their past painful
and codependent relationships, published February 1989 ISBN
1558740066
A Circle of Men: The Original Manual
for Men's Support Groups by Bill Kauth ***
Robert Bly's foremost advice to his gatherings of men is to
go home and form their own groups. This book, 15 years in
the making and written by one of the prominent forces in the
men's movement, is the original handbook for forming and maintaining
a men's support group.
Real Boys' Voices by William S.
Pollack Ph.D. and Todd Shuster ***
In this book, Real Boys' Voices, Pollack, a clinical psychologist
and assistant clinical professor of psychiatry at Harvard
Medical School, lets readers get close to his source--the
boys themselves, ages 10 to 20, from all around the country.
The voices he presents are searingly authentic and eager to
be heard. Pollack's basic premise is simple Despite what society
might tell us, boys want to talk. Furthermore, they have a
lot to say on a wide variety of topics, including gender issues,
friendship, sex, fear of violence, and relationships with
their mothers and fathers.
If Men Could Talk: Here's What They'd
Say by Alon Gratch ***
This book gave me insights into the male psyche and a perspective
from this therapist's point of view. Not only did Dr. Gratch
open new avenues in which to communicate with men but he also
shared much of himself with the reader. In this book, it is
evident that his own journey was both difficult and rewarding.
I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming
the Secret Legacy of Male Depression by Terrence Real ***
When Terrence Real was studying to be a therapist, he accepted
the notion that women suffered depression at rates several
times that of men. Now he believes that conventional wisdom
is wrong, that there has been a great cultural cover-up of
depression in men. Real is convinced of the existence of a
mental illness that is passed from fathers to sons in the
form of rage, workaholism, distanced relationships from loved
ones, and self-destructive behaviors ranging from stupid choices
at work and in love to drug and alcohol abuse.
Fatherloss: How Sons of All Ages
Come to Terms With the Deaths of Their Dads by Neil Chethik
***
Los Angeles Times "Chethik's first book is both intimate
and revealing . . . [he] tenderly describes the impact of
father loss." Washington Post, January 15, 2001 It's
fascinating. Chethik is a sensitive storyteller who interviewed
70 guys in depth about the impact of their father's deaths
Chicago Tribune "His thorough and sensitive new book
. . . explores and explains the tender territory of sons of
all ages managing . . . grief"
Father and Child Reunion: How To
Bring The Dads We Need To The Children We Love by Warren Farrell,
PhD ***
Anyone who cares about the nature of fatherhood today, anyone
interested in the legal and emotional issues that divide fathers
from children, anyone viewing fatherhood from the perspective
of a journalist, social worker, or lawmaker, and any single,
married, or divorced parent needs to read this thoughtful
and engaging book. Dr. Warren Farrell argues-with surprising
and convincing evidence drawn from court cases, law-enforcement
records, national statistics, and therapeutic case studies-that
the judicial system, media, and government often make dads
"the enemy."
The Divorced Dad's Survival Book:
How to Stay Connected with Your Kids by David Knox, PhD, with
Kermit Leggett
In the next century, 50 million American children will go
to sleep without being able to say good night to their fathers.
The Divorced Dad's Survival Book offers both hope and help
for noncustodial fathers who want to stay connected with their
children before, during, and after divorce. David Knox, a
psychologist and father, is passionate in his premise that
dads are not replaceable. But don't expect tips on ex-spouse
bashing. Instead, the author's purpose is to minimize conflict
with the ex-spouse and "to encourage fathers to continue
being fathers and to emphasize that this goal is always worth
pursuing no matter what legal or personal obstacles alienation
from their spouse may bring."
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