The Body/Mind Health Corner™

with Steven Rogat

October/November 2002

Dear Steve: When I was thirteen I hurt myself skiing twisting my left leg. I was told I just pulled some muscles in my lower back. There was no vertebra damage and no muscles were torn. But I am now twenty-seven, and my hips have bothered me off and on ever since that accident. I know the pain gets worse when I'm stressed out, usually having to do with work. When I feel there's too much to do, and that my boss expects too much of me, one hip or the other bothers me. It usually only lasts a few days and then disappears. Money seems to be okay these days. I am a homeowner, and I am happily married, although my wife accuses me of being a workaholic. About the time of the accident, the only thing I can think of is that my father (who was verbally and emotionally abusive) moved out, and my grandmother move in to help take care of me and my two sisters. 

I'm just tired of restricting my activities.
Cameron, New York, NY

Dear Cameron: Generally the hips relate to the balance between our feminine and masculine energies. We all have both. The right hip relates to the masculine - assertiveness, goal & career orientation, the ability to objectively look at our feelings. The left deals with the feminine - patience, nurturing, sensitivity. For hip problems such as yours, there may be tension switching from one hip to the other, from expressing the masculine, then the feminine, then back again. You "lost" your basic male role model at thirteen, and were surrounded by women. Getting into your male energy was "bad" because you then looked like your abusive dad. Additionally, you were surrounded by feminine energy, may have felt a bit overloaded by that, and adopted prohibitions against showing your own feminine side. You need to recapture your ability to accept and express the two sides of your nature, going from one to the other with more mobility.

Positive Thought To Manifest: My sensitivity (feminine) is one of my strengths (masculine). I communicate my feelings (feminine) with certainty (masculine).

A real man doesn't have to prove anything,
Steve

Dear Steven: My name is Beth. I will be 65 years this coming year. My father passed away about two years ago. We were estranged for many years. About five or six weeks before he went I saw him one night in what I am not sure was a dream. He was standing besides a phone booth, smiling, and wearing a beautiful long brilliant white coat, . Sitting on the ground was a little girl selling nuts. He told me to "buy her nuts". Then I woke up. Since then I dreamed of my sister-in- law also dressed in white. She also went a few weeks later. Last month I dreamed of a very ill friend who also passed away. I am not afraid, but I have a strange pain at the location of the third eye. Can you explain?

Thank You Very Much,
Beth, Quebec, Canada

Dear Beth: What a wonderful gift you have been given. The third eye, or middle of the forehead, usually relates to trying to "see" too much into the future. But in your case you have just opened up to it. Your far-sight, at this point, is focused on others' passing. It also refers to death, which is often hard to do anything about. Certainly see a medical practitioner for a diagnosis if the problem persists. However, in the meantime, you can release the energies collecting in your 3rd eye Let those who have passed on know you are sorry for not sharing your "dreams" with them. If it happens in the future, talk to the person. Let them know "it could just be a dream, but I felt it import ant to tell you. Call me crazy if you want. And it might be nothing to worry about, but here it is..." Your father is happy (smiling) and trying to communicate with you (telephone). He wishes you to be in touch with that part of you (the little girl) who gained nourishment from him, and from your own masculine energy - the assertive, goal oriented self who can rise above situations and look at them objectively. Additionally, the real gift you have been given is a chance to be more complete with the person in question. Tell them things in a loving way that may not have been said that way before. Bless them, and yourself. Know that when your time comes, there is so much more than the physical body that lives on.

Positive Thought To Manifest: I acknowledge Spirit in my life and in others' lives. I call on Guidance for all my communications.

You can be complete with others,
whether or not they are complete with you,
Steve