Hi Steve,
I am experiencing pain in my left side of shoulder blade, left side neck, left side ear area, left side arm and left side breast area wrapping around to the back area. My Chiropractor told me that on the left side of women is the stress/emotional side. Do you believe this to be true? I am under a lot of stress; some weight gain, money problems, kids in college/high school, stressful in-law nearby, husband who drives 1 1/2 hours one way to work, church problems. I do not drink or smoke or take drugs. I only have a little arthritis in the lower part of the neck. For the last month, I am up all night long when the pain hits. I had this type of pain about a few months after I had my hysterectomy-7-04-put on bio hormone replacement therapy (HRT), moved into new home-11-04, found a non cancerous lump in left breast-2-05 and had it removed 2-06. It seem the pain really started after I found the lump and kept on pressing on it and eventually the pain in that whole left side area seem to be in pain, which got worse after a recent a breast exam. Could this all be stress related or a bursitis or tendonitis in the left shoulder? If this is stress related what would you recommend? I also don't eat right most of the time and when I try to exercise I end up stopping after I hurt the left shoulder blade/arm area.. Which type of exercise would you recommend for this also? I used to let out my stress with yelling before my hysterectomy, but ever since I have been on HRT I hold it in all the time.
In August 0f 2005, while in town with my youngest son (who I made go with me) my house was robbed with my 2 oldest sons at home (17 & 18) still at home. We live on 2 1/2 acres no fence on our property and our new 5 month old yellow lab was locked in his kennel in the back yard. It looked like nobody was home when I left. I was about done with my errands when I got a frantic phone call from my son telling me our house was robbed and Kenny was injured bad. I happened to be near the police station and ran inside to tell them, and they took off. When I got home I saw police cars all around, and my oldest son outside with blood all over his face. Our home was turned upside down. Every single room was ransacked! All of us were in terrible shock! My husband was an hour and a half away. The robbers got in through a very small master bath window. My son Kyle the 17 year old said he had a gun to his head as they took him into my other son’s bedroom, where Kenny was laying on the floor with lots of blood on him and the carpet and bed. Kenny had been hit in the face and mouth with a gun, and then thrown on the ground and tied up. Kyle was crying, thinking they had killed his brother. The guys then went outside probably to cut wires thinking they cut the phone line and a security camera. Since this happened we got a chain link fence up and our dog is much bigger and very protective of us. My husband has a lot of guilt for leaving for work that morning and I have terrible guilt for leaving the window open when I left. I have been having a hard time leaving them alone and in time I have been able to do so. Just thinking about it is causing a lot of stress in me now.
Any help and advice would be great, Dawn
Dear Dawn,
There are a couple of things going on here. Yes, the left side of the body (in both men and women) relates to our emotional nature – going forward with our feelings – acknowledging them and expressing them. The breast area relates to “mothering”, while the uterus deals with being able to be a “new” mother. You are realizing that you cannot take care of, mother, other people, especially your children. Even your youngest is growing up, trying to be more independent. Also, even the gentlest surgery is an invasion. Your space has been violated – through the operations (even though they were well-intended), and through the burglary and harm to your children. You are possibly an “out-of-control” empath, meaning that you feel other people’s feelings. You take on those feelings as if they were your own, and then have a hard time deciding whose feelings belong to whom. This is another “invasion” of your space. In-law issues and church “problems” are other things in your environment trying erroneously to tell you that your feelings are not okay. It is time to heal yourself, and to support others on healing themselves as well. You cannot take it all on.
Positive Thought To Manifest: My feelings are my own. My decisions are my own. My space is my own. I am the authority in my life!
You are a wonderful person, not only for what you do for others, but for just being.
Steve
